Discover The Soft That Girl Routine – a slower, hormone-friendly approach to mornings, self-care, and gentle productivity. Perfect for women seeking balance without burnout.
Softness Isn’t a Trend — It’s a Healing Response
If you’ve ever felt exhausted by the pressure to be productive, disconnected from your body, or like you’re constantly in survival mode – this article is for you.
So many women today are burnt out, overstimulated, and emotionally tired. The world praises hustle and hardness — but your body is quietly begging for slowness, softness, and safety.
In this post, I’ll gently guide you through the real meaning of softness – not as a performance, but as a healing path rooted in nervous system safety, spiritual identity, and daily rhythms that nourish your whole being.
You’ll discover:
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What true softness looks like (and what it isn’t)
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How stress, food, and hormones affect your emotions
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Soft routines that help you regulate, rest, and feel more like yourself again
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How to honor your feminine energy without losing your strength
My name is Angela, I’m a Registered Nutritional Therapist, and I help women rebuild their health, confidence, and peace — physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
My approach is grounded in gentle nutrition, nervous system healing, and God’s truth about who we really are.
For years, I didn’t know what softness was.
I pushed myself, punished my body, and lived in constant fight-or-flight (ENDO, PCOS, ADHD, Food Disorders)
But healing came when I slowed down – when I learned to eat, move, and live with compassion and purpose.
Now, I help other women do the same.
You don’t need to earn your softness. You just need a safe place to return to yourself.
Let this blog post be that safe place 💛
The Soft That Girl Routine: A Return to Wholeness
Somewhere along the way, wellness became performance. A checklist. A show. But what if the true glow-up isn’t loud or perfect, but slow, nourishing, quiet?
The soft That Girl routine invites you back to your body. It whispers rather than shouts. It reminds you that ovulation is not just fertility—it’s a sign of health. That you can live in sync with your hormones, your cycle, your soul.
You’ve seen the curated morning rituals: green juices, sunrise workouts, flawless everything. But those routines often work against your hormones, not with them. They push when you need rest. They demand when you need grace.
This is for the girl who’s healing from hustle. The one navigating PCOS, endometriosis, insulin resistance, or simply burnout. She doesn’t need more pressure. She needs peace.
What is the Soft That Girl Routine?
It’s a return to gentle living. Real wellness. Habits rooted in biology and self-kindness:
- Slow mornings, not snoozed alarms.
- Real food that supports hormones.
- Movement that heals, not exhausts.
- Self-reflection without judgment.
- Beauty in simplicity.
It’s becoming your best self by being your kindest self.
A Day in the Soft That Girl Routine
☀️ Morning:
- Wake up with the sun, around 7–8 AM
- Sip warm lemon water or electrolytes
- Breathe. Stretch. Step into sunlight.
- Eat breakfast with protein, fiber, and good fats
- Ask yourself: “What do I need today?”
🧠 Day:
- Work with your cycle: high-energy tasks in your follicular phase, gentle focus in luteal
- Lunch that’s colorful and filling
- A moment of stillness after eating
- Move in ways that don’t hurt you
🌙 Night:
- Herbal tea, a book, dim lights
- Journal: “Did I live in a way today that honored my values — in how I cared for myself, others, and the body I’ve been given?”
- Sleep before 11 PM, let your body restore
Why This Works
Because your body wasn’t made for constant grind. It was made to ebb and flow. To wake gently. To rest deeply. To be nourished in cycles.
Hormones aren’t just medical-they’re emotional. They respond to stress, restriction, rhythm. This routine meets you where you are and walks with you, not against you.
Gentle Productivity
You don’t need to do more—you need to feel better about what you do. Work with your energy, not against it. On high days, create. On low days, observe. It’s still productive. Just more honest.
Evening Rituals that Restore
Sleep is sacred. It heals what the day wore down. This routine holds space for soft evenings: tea in hand, phone away, your thoughts unwinding on paper. It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence.
Slow Living Isn’t Laziness
It’s radical. In a world that idolizes burnout, choosing peace is rebellion. Choosing to rest is power. Choosing yourself is healing.
Food as Love, Not Control
Every bite is a message to your body: I care. I see you. Meals aren’t numbers. They’re nourishment. Protein for balance. Greens for antioxidants. Carbs for calm and energy. Eat with softness.
You don’t need more hustle.
You need more YOU.
How to Actually Live the Soft That Girl Routine
This routine isn’t about performing or perfecting.
It’s about honoring your body, living with intention, and caring for what God has entrusted to you-your health, your time, your spirit.
1. A Soft That Girl Routine Across Your Cycle
God designed your body with beautiful rhythms and tuning into those rhythms brings clarity, peace, and balance.
Here’s how to align your routine with each phase of your cycle:
🌧 Menstrual Phase (Days 1–5)
A time for renewal and rest
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Mornings: Allow extra rest. Gentle stretches or simply slow breathing and a moment of quiet.
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Meals: Warm, nourishing foods—soups, stews, root veggies—designed to comfort and replenish.
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Soul-care: Keep a gratitude journal. Listen to calm music. Be kind to yourself.
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Focus: Prioritize rest. Cancel what you can. Steward your energy with care.
“Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28
🌱 Follicular Phase (Days 6–13)
Energy gently rises—this is your restart
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Mornings: Step into light. A short walk, uplifting scripture, or light movement is enough.
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Meals: Fresh, vibrant foods—leafy greens, colorful bowls, fruit, and clean protein.
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Soul-care: Write down one dream. Try something new with joy.
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Focus: Plan. Start creative tasks. Use this renewed energy to build – not strive.
🌼 Ovulatory Phase (Days 14–16)
This is your most outgoing, confident window
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Mornings: If you feel led, move your body a little more. Smile. Speak truth over your day.
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Meals: Lighter meals with hydration and protein.
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Soul-care: Meaningful connection—reach out to a friend, encourage someone, or journal what you’re grateful for.
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Focus: Good time for teaching, leading, or speaking.
“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” — Proverbs 31:26
🍂 Luteal Phase (Days 17–28)
A time to go inward, prepare, and simplify
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Mornings: Let the light in slowly. Stretch. Pray over your day.
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Meals: Hearty and grounding – sweet potatoes, lentils, leafy greens, warming spices.
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Soul-care: Declutter a corner. Create peace in your home. Reflect with God.
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Focus: Finish small tasks. Release pressure. Protect your peace.
Softness That Heals: Becoming “That Girl” Without Losing Yourself
1. Biblical Softness vs. Worldly Softness
True softness isn’t weakness — it’s strength led by the Spirit.
The world may say “soft” is passive or naive, but in God’s design, gentleness is powerful.
“Let your beauty be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
– 1 Peter 3:4
✔ Explore what the Bible really says about meekness, kindness, and self-control – even when you think its boring to read a bible – I never heard of a single person who lived according to biblical values suffered because of it.
✔ Redefine beauty based on grace, not perfection.
✔ Remember: femininity rooted in faith carries quiet confidence — not performative softness.
2. Healing Through Slowness & Stillness
Softness begins in the nervous system.
You can’t embody peace when your body feels unsafe or overstimulated
You can’t truly soften when your body feels unsafe.
Psychologist Dr. Stephen Porges, who developed the Polyvagal Theory, explains that safety is the foundation of all growth and connection.
When our nervous system perceives danger — even subtle stress — it shifts into survival mode.
In that state, it’s almost impossible to rest, digest, reflect, or relate.
We don’t thrive, we just cope.
This is why softness isn’t just a mindset – it’s something we regulate through the body.
Through breath, balanced meals, stillness, and gentle rhythms, we create internal safety.
And that’s where healing begins.
✔ Breath-work, grounding, and magnesium-rich meals
✔ Creating quiet moments in a loud world
✔ Blood sugar balance for emotional stability and inner calm (yes, it matters more than you think & again AlllowEat can help you with it – CLICK HERE)
As a nutritional therapist, I see it all the time — healing happens when we slow down.
Rest isn’t laziness. It’s holy. It’s powerful. It’s required.
3. Soft Routines That Nurture Real Change
This isn’t about chasing aesthetic perfection.
It’s about building rhythms that actually feel good to your body, mind, and spirit.
✔ Gentle morning rituals that set the tone
✔ Slow breakfast ideas [link your recipe here]
✔ Sleep routines to calm cortisol and reset your system
These routines aren’t punishment or pressure.
They’re a form of care — the kind that creates real transformation over time.
2. Soft Girl Saturday: A Weekly Reset Rooted in Grace
Soft Girl Saturday isn’t about aesthetics or hustle. It’s a moment to reset – to prepare gently for the week ahead, with calm and clarity.
Soft Girl Reset Sunday:
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Tidy your space: Steward your home, even in small ways.
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Simple laundry reset: Fold clothes while praying or listening to scripture.
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Plan your meals: Think in nourishing rhythms, not rigid diets (AllowEat can help you with it – CLICK HERE)
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Cycle & soul check-in: How are you feeling physically and emotionally?
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Set gentle goals: Choose 2–3 things to show up for next week—with grace, not guilt.
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” — Proverbs 16:3
3. Simple Morning & Evening Templates
Some days feel full before they even start. These soft, hormone-friendly routines are here for those mornings and evenings – when you just need peace and presence.
5-Minute Soft Morning
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1 min: Sit in stillness. Thank God for breath and a new day.
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1 min: Drink warm water. Hydrate your temple.
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1 min: Step outside or open your window. Let in light.
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1 min: Gentle movement—shoulder rolls or stretching
7-Minute Wind-Down (Peaceful & God-Honoring)
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2 min: Light skincare. Massage your face slowly – care is worship.
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2 min: Sip calming tea or warm water
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1 min: Dim lights. Breathe. Reflect.
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1 min: Journal: What did I learn today?
- Pray 🙏 – It really helps 😉
Begin Here
If this speaks to you, begin. Slowly. One habit at a time. Let softness guide your glow-up.
✨ Download my Free 7-Day Hormone-Friendly Meal Plan + Mini eBook—a gentle starting point for your own soft That Girl routine. Made for women unlearning hustle and choosing harmony.
This Blog post was created by Angela Swaan, a Registered Nutritional Therapist & Personal Trainer and proud part of the Alloweat family — the science-based health app created to become the best in the world. Based in London,UK
Angela’s mission is to help women heal from within – physically, emotionally through evidence-based nutrition, movement, and a gentle, faith-led lifestyle. She supports women struggling with PCOS, insulin resistance, endometriosis, and hormonal imbalances, using science-backed tools blended with real-life simplicity (also deeply rooted in biblical values)